Talk to your kids about Plastic Surgery

There is a Kid's book on Plastic Surgery, called "My Beautiful Mommy", that is supposed to help mothers explain to children why she needs a boobjob, or something. I am not kidding:

Acosta told Salzhauer that she wasn't sure how to talk to her son
about the procedures she was considering. That's when he showed her the
manuscript for his children's picture book, "My Beautiful Mommy" (Big
Tent Books), out this Mother's Day. It features a perky mother
explaining to her child why she's having cosmetic surgery (a nose job
and tummy tuck). Naturally, it has a happy ending: mommy winds up "even
more" beautiful than before, and her daughter is thrilled.

reassuring tale helped win Acosta over—she scheduled breast
augmentation and a tummy tuck. Since February, when she had the
surgery, she and Junior have read the book a half dozen times, and she
says it helped him feel excited rather than scared. "I didn't want him
to think [the surgery] was because I was hurting. It was to make me
feel good," she says.

Awww…excuse me while I puke..

Salzhauer got the idea for a book after noticing that women were coming
into his office with their kids in tow. He says that mysterious
doctor's visits can be frightening for children. "Parents generally
tend to go into this denial thing. They just try to ignore the kids'
questions completely." But, he adds, children "fill in the blanks in
their imagination" and then feel worse when they see "mommy with
bandages," he says. "With the tummy tucks, [the mothers] can't lift
anything. They're in bed. The kids have questions."

 Yeah..still puking.. Cue in the requisite Child Psychologist..

Child psychiatrist Elizabeth Berger,
author of "Raising Kids With Character," likes the idea of a book for
kids. "If the mother is determined to pursue cosmetic surgery, I think
it's terribly important to discuss it with the child," Berger says. But
she says the book is incomplete. She wishes that the mom had just said
something like, "This is silly, but I really want it anyway," she says.
"That is more honest and more helpful to the child."

doesn't want to come across as anti-cosmetic surgery, but she notes
that it can be difficult for small kids to understand. "The younger the
child, the more mysterious and potentially hurtful the mother's
absence, or mother being out of commission, or mother looking like
she's been beaten up, will be," she says. Small children are "concrete"
and "sensible" and think "you go to a doctor because you're hurt or
sick," she says. After considering how their children might react, she
says that "some mothers may realize that the total burden of the
child's anxiety might be a side effect of the procedure they hadn't
quite thought through and that might inspire them to postpone it until
the child is older."

Maybe I am old school, but whatever happend to that wonderful notion of "some things are for adults and some things are for kids"? It worked for me, it worked for all of you, I am sure none of you were ever scarred for life from not knowing why Mommy couldn't do physical work after a surgery. But no, let's introduce them to plastic surgery in a nice shiny book (excerpts can be found here ) when they are 7 or 8, this way we can hook them when they are young. YEAH!


0 comment on Talk to your kids about Plastic Surgery

  1. Eric
    April 21, 2008 at 1:49 pm

    When I first saw this on BoingBoing, I thought that it was a late April Fools joke. Sadly it’s not.

  2. christina/ohio
    April 21, 2008 at 4:24 pm

    Why doesn’t Mommy tell the truth? That her whole existense depends on what she looks like and what label she wears? How that she is so shallow that her life will be over once she reaches that old age mark of 35. If she’s lucky her little girl can develop an eating disorder by the time she’s 11 watching Mommy? What the hell is wrong with parents these days that they don’t get that it isn’t all about them anymore?

  3. kinzi
    April 22, 2008 at 9:29 am

    Christina, SO well said. Plus, we spend all this energy tell kids they are great just the way they are, then we pull the ‘do as I say, not as I do’ junk.

    April 22, 2008 at 8:01 pm

    Christina, well said

    And Sandmonkey – you are such a breath of sane fresh air in a world gone nuts! Keep safe, and keep blogging please!

  5. Medical Training Brisbane
    July 23, 2008 at 4:49 am

    Teens view plastic surgery as a way to fit in and look acceptable to friends and peers. Adults, on the other hand, frequently see plastic surgery as a way to stand out from the crowd.

  6. Beauty
    November 14, 2008 at 2:41 am

    Every mom should be honest with their children,and plus its good thing for children to understand what is the current situation or i may say medical issues regarding such surgery.


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